it says a lot about me that my favorite characters that i created have a very specific relationship with their own gender. i don't like talking about gender identity because my opinions are a bit radical (not in the right wing sense) and i feel like people might misinterpret me. i have a non-binary friend who shares some of my opinions, though they don't know it. i see gender as a weird, abstract, useless idea that should be thrown to the garbage. as such, i don't like labels. i don't like having binary pronouns, nor gender neutral pronouns, nor any sort of indication of my gender, because to me, all of that are just labels trying to bottle me into stereotypes. that's an opinion i have about other people too, those who are desperate to fit into some sort of binarity, considering themselves transmasc or transfem when they're in fact just a very particular person with very particular ways of expressing themselves. case in point: naoto.
naoto from persona 4 is one of the most important characters to me because of how her arc is portrayed. it's exactly why i feel so enraged when people say the writers are transphobic. naoto is a girl, one who doesn't conform to gender norms and doesn't want to, but a girl nonetheless, and that's how i view myself. i don't like being adressed a gender because to me, i'm not a man or a woman or an enby, i'm myself.
that's why i created the character of Me. that's exactly what Me thinks of themselves. so much so that in the entire story no one refers to Me as "they" or "he" or "she", but Me, because Me is Me and only Me.
of course, later in the story their gender is revealed and that's more explored, but their gender don't erase their choice to ignore it. it's not that they don't like being their gender, it's that they reject the preconceived notions of gender. that's why i, as observer, chose to put my pronouns as "they/them" even though i don't use them anywhere else. because i don't want you to have preconceived notions of me. i'm not a man or a woman, i'm myself, and don't you dare try to take that away from me.
another character who is considered non-binary by fans which i disagree is Kino, from Kino no Tabi (which is probably my favorite thing ever). that actually comes from a misunderstanding of japanese from the fans' parts, because she says "boku" instead of "watashi", people think she wants to be gender neutral, but that's not true. people in japan use different first person pronouns all the time, like tim rogers once said, he once met an old lady who used "boku". it doesn't mean Kino is a girl, or a transmasc or a nonbinary, it just means she denies the preconceived notions of her gender.
that's it. i don't like gender. i don't like the ever growing, always present gender war. men hate women because women hate men because men hate women. at this rate, no one's gonna like each other anymore. the patriarchy is an omnipotent force that can't be defeated whatsoever and fighting it is a lost cause, but we still do it because living in denial or acceptance is fucking stupid. i don't like being assigned a gender and i don't like when someone else is, because we're not robots, we're individuals with an entire history and personality. we don't need gender. we need to embrace complexity and accept our differences.